Monthly Archives: May 2012

I Don’t Believe in Hate

I’ve spent a lot of time talking to people about homosexuality and one thing that comes up a lot is people declaring they know (For a fact or for sure) that God didn’t make people gay. One of the reasons I’ve struggled with faith is because I don’t know anything about God, really. The only thing we have is a book that has been rewritten, manipulated and edited for political purposes and for so long how can anyone really be sure about anything it says. I can’t understand people who claim to know what God did, is doing or hasn’t done. How the hell do you know? Do you have a secret phone line to the Almighty?

I get that there are a lot of people out there who take issue with homosexuality but instead of owning their opinions and just flat out saying “I think it’s a choice because I don’t think people are born that way.” they pawn it off on God by saying they know God didn’t make someone that way. I have a lot more respect for someone who can own their opinion and belief than for someone who sits on the fence and refuses to commit to their own opinion. Even the Bible seems to agree with me there,

“I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth” (Rev. 3:15-16).”

Like I said, I get that people have problems with homosexuality. I’m not one of those people. I’ve never seen people as just gay or straight, everyone is so much more than their sexual preference. I just fail to see how limiting someone by their sexuality is a worthwhile activity or how it makes you a better person. I spent a lot of time confused about my own sexuality, I found myself looking at girls the same way I looked at boys and I didn’t understand it. It wasn’t anything I ever chose to do, it was just something I discovered about myself. But to say that I’m less than or not equal to a straight person is just stupid. To judge someone based on their sexuality is to limit yourself. Judging someone doesn’t determine what they are it determines what you are.

You can believe that homosexuality is a sin without being a dick about it. I believe adultery is a sin but it is only my life I need to judge. The fact is not every person out there is going to agree with me and it’s not my job to police other people’s behaviors. Sure, I don’t have to like it but I do have to accept that their lives are theirs to live. You can have your beliefs and still understand that your ways are not everyone’s ways and it is not your responsibility to police the lives of other people. It is also not your job to spread hate and discord. Last I checked we were commanded to love one another:

“This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. (John 15:12)”

I believe in loving your neighbor and treating people the way you would want to be treated and I encourage everyone to think about that before they’re cruel to someone. I’m not here to convince you that homosexuality isn’t a choice, even though I fully believe it isn’t, instead I’m here to ask you to think about your behavior and consider that maybe we don’t know everything. And if you believe when we all die we will be judged, remember the only life you are being judged on is yours, so living with your heart full of hate will be on you, not on those you hated.